Assalamualaikum and hi!
So, today’s sharing is from juz 8, surah al-isra’ verse 151.
The literal meaning of this verse is – “Say, ‘Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. That you not associate anything with him, and to parents give them good treatment, and do not kill your children out of poverty; we will provide for you & them. And do not approach immoralities – what’s apparent of them and what’s concealed. And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden except by right. This has He instructed so you can apply your intelect.”
If you might notice, everything in this verse is all about prohibition except for one. First, don’t do syirik, don’t kill your children out of poverty, don’t go near immoralities and don’t kill a person without having any justification. Everything is a don’t and the only do in this verse is goodness to parents. Why is that so?
According to uz Nouman Ali Khan in his vid, he says that, this is because Allah is saying that anything short of the best to our parents, we better avoid. There’s no other commandment in Islam where we’ve to do our best for it to be acceptable and that if we don’t do our very best, then we’re actually in sin. There’s no such commandment in Islam, except parents.
This verse is about what’s haram, it’s about prohibitions. And Allah says, “both parents, you better absolutely be the best you can be.” We better be good to them under any circumstances. And another thing that’s amazing in this verse is, if anything is short of our best, we’re in what Allah forbade. If we’re not perfect in our ibadah, we can try our best to improve from time to time. If we’re not perfect in communicating with other people, it’s not a sin. We can improve, always. But, when it comes to parents, it has to be the best.
Basically it means, when we’re with our parents, we should do good to them the best that we can. How is that so? Speak to them in the best way, deal with them in the best way. Give them the best kind of gifts. Be the most patient with them. It’s pretty obvious. Allah says, when it comes to your parents, “ihsanan” which means the best. Don’t think a single thing that shouldn’t be the best. There’s not a thing we can think of that has to do with the relationship between we and our parents that shouldn’t be the best. Our speech, our thoughts, our patience, our attitude, our body language, our gifts and our time, they should get the very best.
And that’s in this remarkable verse in which everything else was forbidden. And by implication, what’s forbidden with our parents is anything short of the very best. May Allah help us to live up to this incredible standard and really give us the strength and the patience, to deal with our parents when they become hard to deal with. When they become angry, unnecessarily. When they make inappropriate demands from us. May we can deal with it in the very best way that we possibly can, insyaAllah.
May Allah forgive our parents for the mistakes they make and give blessings to them as much as they love us since we were a baby till now 🙂
Here’s the link of the vid.
Ramadhan kareem everyone!